Freedom

Think of the power God has, yet he refrains from imposing it on anyone. It’s not his way. He doesn’t overpower people against their will. He doesn’t manipulate or control. He has the power to do so, but would never do it. His character is so strong, he refrains from exercising the power he possesses even though use of force could accomplish his will. He lets us walk where we want, how we want, with the free will he gave each of us.

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He welcomes us to friendship. He doesn’t demand it, force it, or threaten to make things bad for us if we say “no”. His relationships are not built on guilt, obligation, or coercion. They evolve out of our freedom to accept or decline his offer of companionship. Be with him if we want. Don’t if we don’t want to.

He doesn’t pull “people-things” like guilt trips and threats. He just doesn’t do it. God’s relationships with people are without strings attached. His is simply an offer to be together if we choose. He is all about freedom.

After encountering the “real deal”, the Spirit of God, most people long for his constant companionship. He cares. He loves. He understands. He takes us from wrongful confinement to freedom, from captivity to wide-open terrain.

Wild horses at Theodore Roosevelt National Park in North Dakota at dawnGod provides a fertile field, and nurtures us there. He stays with us while he reveals our potential, strengthens our skills, and broadens our knowledge. He causes us to grow and believe in ourselves.

 

Time spent with the Spirit of God is time spent in an environment of betterment. And with him, there is always freedom.

2 Corinthians 3:17 – Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. (NIV)

 

Take Charge – Hope and a Future

In our lifetimes, we are given countless chances and opportunities. That doesn’t mean we always notice them. Or take them. Sometimes we see a chance—we even want it badly—but let it pass by. While others take charge of their lives and seize opportunities, our feet are stuck in mud. Or we’re caught in a strong current and can’t break free.

river pic for blog 1Let’s use a river metaphor. A man wants in, but is waiting for someone to set him safely on a raft in the center of the river. In another case, a woman is in the water and wants out—her river is cold and ruthless—but she stays there, captive to the current. Both the man and woman think the power to change their circumstances is in someone else’s hands.

Do people see themselves as having a victim mentality? Most don’t. They have views such as “accept the bad with the good”, “it’s karma”, or “it’s fate.” With a sigh of resignation, many Christians say, “God’s in charge”.

But if we asked God instead of presuming his thoughts, what would he say about fate, chances and opportunities? How much of our lives does he view as ours to control? How many opportunities do we miss and fail to take, that God may have set up for us?

Our paradigm of life determines how we address this issue. If our philosophy is that karma, God, or some immovable force controls our lives, we are likely to put up no resistance when things go badly. We train ourselves to accept that “shit happens”, as the saying goes. On the other hand, if our philosophy is that we exclusively control our life and there is no God, we are likely to exert much resistance when the current of life pulls us in undesired directions.

Those two philosophies are quite polar. Most people’s paradigms are somewhere in the middle. And almost all people have those views without being cognizant of them — they lay somewhere deep in the subconscious, having been covertly adopted in the midst of events that occurred from birth forward.

How much damage do we do to ourselves unknowingly, due to our subconscious philosophies? How many currents of life have swept us into directions we never belonged, because we didn’t put up resistance? We may have believed it was God’s doing, when it might not have been. It may even have been Satan’s doing. How do we know? How do we manage life without knowing?

river current for blogI think we get tossed, pulled, tugged, and overtaken by evil on a regular basis. And I think we develop philosophies about those currents in order to console ourselves.

How can we know what to accept and what to resist? Is it possible to discern? Doesn’t it seem overwhelming, even hopeless? Who are we to out-whit powerful, wanton forces?

There is a way to avert being a victim of harmful circumstances. With God, it’s possible to take charge of your life. All the enemy powers of the world united, can’t destroy God. Your team may include only you and God, but focus on who your teammate is!

Romans 8:31 – What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

God will show you how to overcome what is not from him. You can beat illusive and powerful strongholds that have controlled your life and mind. You don’t have to know the outcome of each conflict in advance, or what skirmishes might be ahead, just face each day with God as your ally.

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Seek His thoughts and plans for you. Wait. Listen. Understand. Then agree with Him and make decisions accordingly.

 

Take Charge – Ask Questions

You don’t have to flow with every current or roll with every punch that comes along. Don’t assume if it happened, it was meant to be. Or destiny. Or fate. Or karma. Or God’s will.

Hebrews 11:6 (NIV) – And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

Earnestly seek him. Question your circumstances. In every baffling situation, ask, “What is the deal here, God? Is this situation final? Is it beyond my control? Did you make a promise to me in the past about this? How do I deal with this situation the way you want me to?”

You can’t effectively deal with conditions unless you know the truth about them. Taking a stab at it is often futile. In many situations, it’s impossible to know the truth unless God reveals it.

Psalm 25:14 (NIV) – The LORD confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them.

Get the truth about your circumstances. Only God can provide that. And He will. He will happily share what you need to know.

Earnestly seek him.

 

Take Charge – Truth

John 8:32 – And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Is it scary to hear the truth? Often it is. If you’re praying and asking for the truth in your circumstances, be prepared that the truth might be tough to take. Nobody wants to realize a fact like, “The person you love is using you.” Or, “Your spouse is cheating on you.” Or, “That woman posing as a friend intends to steal from you.” Or, “Your boyfriend abused your children.” Or, “You are an addict.”

It’s not always good news. But if it’s true, staying blissfully ignorant is not in your best interests. Being a pawn of some thing, or some person with selfish intents is not a good place to be.

Whether we like the truth or not, it is empowering to know it. With the bad news, you need a strategy. You need to look out for you, as well as others involved. If some thing or someone you trusted will throw you under the bus — if they will use and abuse you — you have some big decisions to make. Wise decisions.

To learn truths like that is a blow. God knows how much it hurts. But it’s best for your well-being that you know the truth. If he has shared it with you, he knows it is bearable. And don’t forget the silver lining, that empowerment I mentioned before. This is the point when the power is shifted from your “user and abuser” to you. Be patient, restrained, righteous, and wise with that power.

Brace yourself for the unexpected. God may disclose the source of your trouble as spiritual.

Ephesians 6:12 – For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

1 Peter 5:8 – Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

If that’s the case, stop accepting your circumstances and start resisting.

James 4:7 – Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

You need to take action instead of acquiescing to evil circumstances—you have God’s blessing and direction to resist the current that swept you away. You can get out of the harmful river, and be free of it.

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Once you get yourself to safety on the riverbank, study that river and see that it didn’t really hold you in it. You just thought you were captive there. Knowing the truth made a monumental difference. You are not a victim. You are free. It is the river that is powerless to keep you in it, or to force you back in.

Let’s go back over this. When you’re in the cruel current, it tells you that you can’t get out. You think, “It’s fate. It’s from God. It’s in my DNA. I am powerless.” You believe that. It pulls and threatens and overpowers you till you are swallowing water and gasping for air.

But once you are out of its pull (often it only takes a mental shift), you see it doesn’t have the power it appeared to.

You are on solid ground with a gentle breeze and warm sun on your head, free of the raging water. It isn’t drowning you anymore. You can’t believe you ever fell for the philosophy that it was your lot in life to be in that horrible river.

Now you know the truth. You are free, and standing on solid ground.

As the old hymn goes, “On Christ the solid rock I stand. All other ground is sinking sand.”

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Take Charge – On Solid Ground

John 8:32 – And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

When you’ve experienced the freedom of mind which comes with knowing the truth, you can’t wait to get all your philosophies over-hauled by God. You want to be in truth every second of every day, to stay free and see what opportunities God has for you. You recognize truth is what will enable you to avoid future entrapment and cruel currents.

Keep at it, and you will get very good at recognizing conflicting information. A current tells you one thing, but God tells you another. God’s is the one you choose to flow with. Watch the threatening current fall apart into disorganization because you didn’t fall for it.

rough water, for blogIf you’re struggling to get air today — if you’re circling in overwhelming currents trying to get you to go under — put your feet down. You’re not in the deep water it wants you to believe you’re in. You’re in a shallow river. Your feet can touch bottom. Solid ground is in reach. The current isn’t the unstoppable power it appears. Your human ability to walk yourself to the riverbank surpasses the river’s force.

Once on the bank away from the river, take a long look at that water. It actually couldn’t prevent you from surviving it — it just wanted you to believe it could. It doesn’t have your best interests in mind. That river can’t be from God. God would never put you in a current  like that.

He has your best interests in mind. He puts sun on your shoulders and a soft breeze on your face. He puts green grass under your feet and walks with you. If he does put you in a current, it is beneficial — his living water — a righteous river he previously invited you to, and you already responded ‘yes, please!”  He doesn’t thrust his power on you.

You can put your feet on the ground. It’s just inches away and will take just the time it takes to straighten your bent knees. Then walk. It’s not far at all to the river bank, where there is green grass, warm sun and a gentle breeze. He’ll be there waiting for you.

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Consider the Lilies

Just after this morning’s rain, I bicycled in the countryside. The winds were gusting from the southwest, and the air was cool from the recent storm. Along one narrow road was a field of yellow blossoms, the colors in flux as the dividing clouds migrated easterly.

While I admired the sky and vivid land, a phrase came to mind — it is settled there still:  Consider the lilies.

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Matthew 6:28 “Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you? 

33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you34 Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself.”

Today I am reminded that God is aware of my needs. He is aware of yours as well. We can let our anxieties be blown away by the winds, and not fret about how or when God will meet them. He will do it.

 Consider the lilies.

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More Alike Than Unalike


On this day of the revered Maya Angelou’s death, one of her vast quantity of quotes stands out. It commends my sentiments on good days, and cajoles me on days I lean toward divisiveness.

Within the quote, the word learn, is paramount. I must learn to search for common ground with people who differ from me. I must choose to do so, and do it repeatedly for it to become a habit. It must be a habit to ultimately embed itself in my nature.

“We can learn to see each other and see ourselves in each other and recognize that human beings are more alike than we are unalike.”

— Maya Angelou (April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014)

Spring After The Drought

(Originally posted June 4, 2013.)

Where I live in middle America, there was a drought in 2012. Farmers were able to plant crops unusually early. Homeowners put in their gardens and planted flowers well before the mid May frost-free standard. Then little to no rain fell. By June we got excited when skies darkened. We went outdoors and watched approaching clouds, hopeful for a downpour.

But day after day, week after week, and month after month, those clouds were stingy. They rarely shared a drop. The local meteorologists explained that the atmosphere was so dry, the rain evaporated before it reached the ground. Temperatures rose—consecutive days in the mid to upper 90’s.

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Crops withered in the fields. The parched earth contracted, causing ever-widening cracks. Lawns went dormant and crunched underfoot. Even well-established trees and bushes dropped leaves.

By fall, an unwanted record was broken: we were in the worst drought in half a century.

Lower than normal snowfall in the winter extended the drought well into 2013. I expected dead bushes and a spotty lawn this spring. I planned to pull out the shovel and the grass seed. But I never had to do either. The pictures are my witness.

We got rain. More than enough rain!

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Today, the wisteria is bursting with blooms, the two weigela bushes have a bumper crop of crimson flowers, and the clematis is heavy with buds. The pachysandra ground cover that appeared dead just a month ago, not only survived but is spreading. The grass recovered fully on its own. I had lilacs on bushes that I didn’t even know were lilacs.

Horticulturists, botanists, or agronomists could explain all this to me. All I know is, this burst of beauty was not what I expected. Why did those plants flourish after the extreme heat and prolonged drought of the past year? So much for logic.

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Experience has convinced me that the same thing can happen to people. Drought happens. Some of us get hit with an extraordinary amount of it. Some suffer for a long, long time. It seems impossible that our drought will ever end.

And then one day it starts to rain. It’s just a light shower that really isn’t enough. It’s a tease, too imperceptible to satiate bone-dry soil; there’s still a major moisture deficit. But more showers come, heavier and with more frequency. Soil that was parched and unable to support plants just weeks before becomes saturated.

Shockingly fast, the drought is over. It’s a new day and a new spring, and we’re not merely living, we’re thriving. Life is unexpectedly bountiful! So much for logic.

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Romans 5:7   Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming.  

See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.    

8 You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near.

To Uphold

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When you are fearful, remember Isaiah 41:10, contemplate the meaning of “uphold”, and absorb its inspiriting synonyms:

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verb: maintain, support

  •  advocate, confirm, defend, encourage, endorse, hold to, justify, promote, side with, stand by, vindicate, aid, assist, back, bolster, boost, brace, buttress, carry, champion, countenance, elevate, help, hoist, prop, raise, rear, second, sustain, uplift, upraise, back up, buoy up, hold up, pick up, shore up, stick by, stick up, take up, upbear, uprear

If you’re still afraid, consider these antonyms of “uphold” and be assured of what God will never do to you: 

  • attack, deny, oppose, protest, abandon, decrease, depress, destroy, discourage, drop, fall, halt, hinder, hurt, injure, lessen, lower, neglect, obstruct, prevent, stop, undermine, weaken

Don’t be afraid, my friend. Trust God to uphold you. 

Spread the Love, End the Stigma

Nicky Gant is a fellow writer, blogger, and friend. She recently published this article on mental health awareness and suicide prevention for the QC Mom’s Blog. Thank you, Nicky, for allowing me to share this thorough, helpful, and compassionate resource.

http://www.quadcitymomsblog.com/2014/05/14/bubbles-of-hope/


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Like many moms of small children, I tend to live in a bubble. I’m usually running between little league, the YMCA and preschool – everywhere I look, I see happy little people with promising futures.

But the truth is, my bubble burst a long time ago.

If it hadn’t, perhaps my heart wouldn’t have hurt quite so bad when I learned about the string of local teen suicides, which experts have described as an epidemic in Scott County. Perhaps it would have seemed like a distant problem, something that can only happen to other families.

Though thankfully, my loved one who attempted suicide as a teenager survived, he resisted treatment for his mental illness and went on to live out the devastating, all-too common effects of his condition. Witnessing the pain he’s endured has been heartbreaking and life changing to say the least.

So when I hear about kids committing suicide, it hits close to home. I wonder how many promising young people in our community are suffering in silence, contemplating suicide, self-medicating with harmful substances or making poor choices, which will impact the long-term trajectory of their lives, due to an underlying mental health condition.

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According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness:

  • Of children ages 9 to 17, 21 percent have a diagnosable mental or addictive disorder that causes at least minimal impairment;
  • suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death in youth aged 12-17;
  • 90% of those who died by suicide had an underlying mental illness;
  • 50% of lifetime mental illnesses begin by age 14; and
  • currently **only 20 percent** of children with mental disorders receive mental health services.

These statistics make me wonder … in our close-knit community, do any of us really live in a bubble, isolated from the pain of mental illness anymore?

Fortunately, there is a lot we can ALL do to help raise awareness and generate more positive outcomes for those who are suffering.

1. Spread hope

According to NAMI, modern treatment is 70-90 percent effective, and kids with mental illness can absolutely go on to live positive, productive lives.

2. Focus on early identification

As hard as it is to think about, we should all keep an eye out for potential symptoms in our loved ones.

According to NAMI, suicide warning signs include:

  • Talking about hopelessness, worthlessness, being a burden to others, feeling trapped or having no reason to live.
  • Having no motivation or losing interest in activities once enjoyed.
  • Withdrawing or feeling isolated.
  • Sudden change in personality or behaviors.
  • Giving away possessions, behaving recklessly.
  • Talking about death or not being here tomorrow. Looking for ways to kill oneself such as searching online or buying a gun.

Mental illness warning signs (determined by NAMI) include:

  • A sudden or persistent drop in school performance.
  • Persistently aggressive behavior.
  • Threats to self or others.
  • Substantial mood swings.
  • Hallucinations, paranoia or delusions.
  • Acting very withdrawn, sad or overly anxious.
  • Extreme difficulty interacting with friends and/or siblings.
  • Extreme changes in sleeping and eating patterns.
  • Increased or persistent use of alcohol or drugs.

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3. Stop the stigma

Unfortunately, harmful misperceptions (such as associating mental illness with weakness) persist in our society, adding a layer of shame to already-suffering individuals, along with causing many to resist seeking help.

We need to spread the truth that mental illness is like any other medical condition, which requires treatment – it’s that simple.

4. Support efforts to reduce bullying

Research indicates that kids who are bullied face an increased risk of developing emotional problems.

Family and friends of one of our local suicide victims created Make a Change, the Alice Schmidt Movement to raise awareness and find solutions.

Care QC is a local organization, created to help put a stop to bullying as well.

As parents, we can serve on the PTA to make sure our schools are implementing the best possible anti-bullying programs, and we can teach our own children the importance of empathy.

5. Don’t judge, try to understand

Without treatment, the consequences of mental illness are frequently  looked down upon in our society.

In addition to having a 50% chance of dropping out of high school, our mentally ill youth are likely to face long-term effects such as disability, unemployment, substance abuse, homelessness and incarceration. In fact, 65% of boys and 75% of girls in juvenile detention facilities have an underlying mental illness, which is not being treated.

If we begin to collectively have more compassion for underlying causes of these problems, we can help more kids receive the treatment they need before they become adults, who are lost in the system.

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6. Reach out and connect

Never underestimate the power of extending yourself to those affected by mental illness.

I will never forget the note I received from a high school classmate, who thanked me for expressing condolences to her after hearing that her brother committed suicide. She said it meant a lot to her because most people pretended like it didn’t happen, which added to her pain.

Even if we are uncomfortable, doing our best to reach out and express concern can help reduce the ripple effect of isolation caused by mental illness. We have the power to make a difference, just by showing we care.

7. Seek help, utilize community resources

If you are concerned about your child, start by getting a referral for psychiatric care from a pediatrician, and be sure to work closely with your school counselor.

If you don’t have insurance, please keep hope, and be aware that services may be available through United Way-funded programs, such as Family ResourcesVera French, the Martin Luther King Jr. Community Centerthe Center for Youth and Family SolutionsYouth Service Bureau of Rock Island County, and Bethany for Children and Families. You can also reach out to faith communities for help.

Free support and information is available online at the NAMI Child and Adolescent Action CenterThe national suicide prevention hotline is a great resource as well.

Don’t give up on your quest to receive adequate care for your child, but don’t blame yourself if they refuse treatment; there are many reasons for this. All you can do is your best, and don’t forget to take care of yourself too.

8. Focus on mental health

Though we may not be able to prevent mental illness, Mayo Clinic research indicates that the effectiveness of treatment can be maximized by getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, exercising and incorporating stress reduction techniques into daily life.

9. Educate your kids

It can be hard to talk about, but we need to empower our kids with information about suicide, mental illness and bullying, so they realize the importance of reaching out for help and identifying symptoms in their peers.

To be honest, this article was hard for me to write. A part of me wants to live in a bubble … it’s painful to think about all the great kids who are suffering, not receiving the help they need. I don’t want to burst anyone’s bubble, but I’ve seen how mental illness can shake a strong family unit to its core, and I feel a responsibility to spread awareness.

I hope this article can help reduce the stigma associated with mental illness and most importantly increase hope, so we can identify more kids at the crucial choice point in their lives, when receiving treatment can most effectively put them on track to reach their full potential.

How has mental illness affected your life? Sharing your story is a great way to help others feel less alone. Do you know of additional community resources for struggling teens?

Source:  www.nami.org

About Nicky

Nicky is an on-the-go mom of three spirited boys aged 7, 5 and 1. She’s grateful to be married to her down-to-earth rock of a husband Larry, who supports her in taking care of the kids full time. She likes to look under the surface to the heart of what really matters in life and is passionate about the powerful role mothers play in families and communities. She’s a firm believer that through God, all things are possible and is looking for ways to make a positive impact on others, while putting her family first. She loves reading, nature and living a simple, centered life and blogs about faith here.